Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Whiling away the day down by the sea.



Over the weekend, we went to Hilton Head for a quick get away. The guys played golf - big surprise and Betty and I headed to the beach. It was a great way to recharge my batteries. The beach was quiet, the water was not too cold and the pool back at the hotel was clear and cool. All together a fabulous way to spend three days. The only glitch was sketchy cell phone service. In some ways it was great but in others it made squeezing in some work a little difficult. I ended up setting up a temporary office on the little deck off the room and pulling the coffee table over to the patio door so I had internet from the hotel and cell service if I was outside and not moving from the one hot spot. I am sure it looked a little silly to my neighbors. I forget how reliant I am on cell service.



Saturday, April 23, 2011

The Bucket List

The movie, the Bucket List, got me thinking about what was on my bucket list. It made me realize that I really didn't have a bucket list. Did that mean I was a ditzy as people think I am, no real wants or desires just floating along the rive of life? Were my expectations of life so low that I didn't want to tempt fate by having a list? Slowly over many months and now years I started mulling over what might be on my list if I had a list. It turns out that when I ask friends and spouse the question - what is on your bucket list - they usually have a mental list or at least a few maybe's. This year I admitted to having such a list and told my spouse that one of the things on my list was to go to a Jimmy Buffett concert. The real wish would be to sit on my front porch swing in the house next door to his and listen to the music float across the air. But a concert would be good. So, this year I persuaded my non-Buffettt groupie husband to take me to the Charlotte concert. He wasn't into tail-gating and I had to prod him to move his appointments up and leave by 6:30 but he found tickets and we went. I came home deaf and you had to know the songs to even guess the lyrics. The lesson there is once you are over 60 you do have to get close to front row center seats to actually hear the words. The show was great, I was ready to pack my bags and leave for the Islands. Now I have a visual to go with my IPod and radio music fix of escapism music.

Saturday, April 9, 2011

Naps


Naps are highly under appreciated. It is actually only recently that I finally understood that everyone doesn't nap. My Dad was a champion napper. If he sat down, he napped. It is possible he would have napped at dinner if the chairs had been more comfortable. I am a reasonably good napper - and I am grateful for the gift. Some times when work was exhausting or I had a long drive after a long day, I would nap in the car. I would put my seat back and set my travel alarm (pre-Iphone) for 20 minutes and sleep. That is all it takes -- 20 minutes - and I am good to go for the rest of the day.

But the absolute best naps are the ones with a small soft person resting on your chest. It slows your breathing and you have the wonderful scent of baby to lull you to sleep. Napping with a baby is amazing. Time stops, worries float away and it is just gentle breathing and the warm body touching yours. Thank you Madi! Soon you will be too big and too busy to nap with me, but until then I am available any time for a nap.

Friday, April 8, 2011

Good old fashioned righteous outrage

I think that it is time that we adopt a law that requires that all elected local, state and federal elected officials have to not only take and pass Civics in school but that they have to maintain a minimum level of continuing education credits to even run for office. The course work should include the basics of the constitution, how the court system functions and the basic laws of the land. And for state and federal office there is a Civics 201 level set of courses that include the history of how our laws and sense of justice and fair play have evolved over time. Civics 202 will be on economics - not just the big stuff like the budget is x trillion, but who is effected directly and indirectly by every dollar that is spent or not spent. There will be an advanced class for committee members on how to really analyze the effectiveness of programs. Anyone on budget committees will have to take Civic 302 that will delve into their programs and look at why they were started, analyze their effectiveness and then have long thoughtful discussions with topics like -"Has the program outlasted its usefulness, or should it be retooled because the basic need is still valid?". What in the heck is going on - how have we become such ideologues that we cannot pass a budget. Let's do a quick logic check - no we don't have enough money to fund everything at the level that has been requested. Our budget is huge, but just like most of our own family budgets only a small percentage can be trimmed. Most of our money goes to fixed costs - shelter, heat, lights, water, insurance.... What is left is whether we go out to dinner every night or no nights, should we "staycation" or vacation, does little Johnnie get cool shoes or shoes. So why in the wisdom of the elected officials are they going after so many short sighted targets and raising the red herrings AGAIN of moral turpitude (women who by themselves have gotten themselves in the family way). Let's cut education funds - hang in there kids - we are already way behind the international curve on real education and graduation rates - that should solve the problem, let's cut family planning, just be surprised. This isn't a rant in favor of family planning or a wholesale rave on how well our education system is doing - I personally think we are doing a terrible job delivering real, meaningful services to children and families. But short of eliminating children and requiring families who need help to disappear, I think our elected officials have to get off their soap boxes and think about what they are doing. If the Federal Government shuts down who will be hurt - every hourly employee, every person who works for a company that contracts with the government, every person who serves those employees, and the list goes on. I remember the last shut down - this time I suggest that airlines refund any tickets for trips to Washington just as if there was a tsunami or hurricaine - sorry destination shut. Post signs on the Beltway and Interstate - halt here - Washington is shut no need to go to the Cherry Blossom Festival, take Aunt Sue home no tourist visit to the Smithsonian, go have lunch in the shopping mall. All of you who pulled up at the Grand Canyon - sorry closed. This is 2011, we have the most up-to-date technology, we can do business 24 hours a day, in our cars, offices, on the back porch, but we can't figure out how to keep the federal government up and running? Stop acting like spoiled three year olds.

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